Written by Heather Hymas

“Expect to have hope rekindled. Expect your prayers to be answered in wondrous ways. The dry seasons in life do not last. The spring rains will come again.” –Sarah Ban Breathnach

Do you feel like you deserve happiness? Do feel like you are enough?

Do you ever wonder why good things seem to happen to other people all the time, and you are still waiting for your ship to come in?

Have you tried using the Law of Attraction or daily affirmations just to be disappointed by the seemingly lack of results?

Have you considered the idea that maybe YOU are the reason? Could it be that you are not allowing good things and/or abundance into your life?

Have you considered the possibility of just letting it happen?

I believe that our hearts and our heads are connected. Whenever the two are in conflict with each other, we can not function properly. We are not living our lives with purpose, nor will we be able to. When your heart is telling you one thing and your head is telling you something else, who do you listen to? Which one wins?

If you are like me, it is probably your head. In the past, I have let my head be the boss. I was ruled by my conditioning, my experiences, and the thoughts or ideas I had bought into. The head produces fear, negative thinking, and the idea that I should do things a certain way because of how others will view my choices or how my actions might affect other people. I thought I had to think logically and objectively to make the right decision. Whenever the two didn’t agree—which was often—I followed my head.

I do not believe this anymore.

I have come to learn that my head is not the wise one. My head is not the one I should be listening to. My heart holds all the answers, and if I listen to it honestly, the heart is never wrong.

You may be reading this and thinking, “Yeah right! This is bullshit!” You may say that every time you’ve listened to your heart, it has gotten broken, you have made a wrong decision, or you have gotten hurt.

I used to think that way too.

I used to think my heart was stupid.

It seemed to always be an all-or-nothing deal. My head and my heart were so far apart in their opinions that I literally had to choose one. I couldn’t listen to both at the same time.

When I was unsure or afraid, it always seemed smarter to go with my head. My head told me things like: I shouldn’t trust people, it’s better to be safe than sorry, I should be afraid, I didn’t deserve happiness or love, people will always let you down, etc. My head was always waiting for the other shoe to drop. When things were really going well is when I felt the most uncomfortable and anxious because my head would be saying, “Hold on. Get ready. Something really bad is about to happen!” I learned to shut my heart off, to keep my heart quiet. At least that way I didn’t have this constant battle going on inside of me, but in doing that, I was not allowing good things to happen.

Either way, when the head and the heart don’t match up, you are probably walking around feeling pretty awful. Even if you manage to ignore it, at the very least you will never truly find peace. The key is to get your head and heart to align, to become allies for each other, best friends if you will. I want to feel good in my head about following my heart. I want to believe that what my heart is telling me is real. I want to believe in magic, fairytale endings, abundance, and creating my own reality. I want to believe in intuition.

I have been making an honest effort lately to listen to my heart. I believe it is where our true intuition and guidance comes from. If I am able to shut off my mind long enough to trust my heart and listen—truly listen—my head will usually follow. Of course, you can talk yourself out of anything if you want to. My head has all kinds of reasons why things shouldn’t or won’t turn out well, but they are all usually based on fear or other people’s perceptions. My heart knows what is best for me, just like your heart knows what’s best for you.

You have to be willing to silence the boss inside your head and open yourself up to the possibility that you do deserve happiness, you are enough, and that amazing and wonderful things are just around the corner. We can all have everything we want if we are willing to believe that first, it is possible, and second—which is the hard part—that we deserve it. Once you can honestly believe these two things and get your head and heart to agree, everything you want is available for you. It may not come how you expect it to. It may come in a very different package. It may not come at the time you want it to, but it will come once you really agree to just let it happen.