Written by Scott Dunford
Golf Widow: noun., A spouse that refuses to play golf due to lack of interest or self confidence, thus feeling left out of their partners play time on the golf course.
You never know when your passion for golf will raise its ugly head and alienate you from the love of your life, especially if they’re not a golfer. After all, you trade one passion for another when your relationship lacks the intense passion it once had. The kids are all grown up now. It’s just you and your spouse. Do you have common interests other than getting the children to their soccer game or piano lessons? Did you find time to play together as a couple during those child rearing years? Or did you focus on family time feeling a bit guilty when your buddies talked you into playing golf for 4-5 hours?
For many, golf is an escape away from the grind. It’s a chance to re-energize with nature and test your resolve and focus. And it is a perpetual commitment to get better at something or at least make a few great shots. You begin to take it for granted that your spouse or companion will always be there for you after your weekly 5-6 hour rounds with the boys! You focus on planning your next golf outing rather than your next date night. You buy expensive equipment and take exotic golf vacations with your buddy’s one or twice a year while visiting family and friends. All of a sudden you wake up one day and see your bags packed at the door.
What just happened? I thought we were happy? Now you’re single again. Facing the dating scene at nearly retirement age! Thank goodness for online golf dating. Something that would have been great to have 20+ years ago before you said, “I Do”
Marriage and long term relationships are difficult enough without the added separation during our precious spare time. Couples need to share common interests in more than just raising children and paying bills. Many feel that a full schedule of religious activities will fill the gaps and provide that needed time together outside the home. I’m no expert but I believe you need more as a couple. You need to play together!
Whether it’s bowling, tennis, pickle ball or some other outdoor activity, play time together strengthens relationships better than anything I can think of. Golf is perfect for that. Sharing time on a golf course opens up dialogs, creates lasting memories with friends and family, and nourishes our need for fresh air and exercise as we age. “With a partner who doesn’t play golf it’s a roller coaster ride between managing my passion for golf my passion for my wife!” You want to do fun things together but working full time plus housework and other domestic time killers force you to make some hard choices. Play time becomes a precious commodity. If you decide to play golf more than once a week you’ve created a Golf Widow. My advice, get them playing golf before you tie the knot, find a mate that will play golf with you. That’s why online golf dating sites are quickly gaining huge numbers for those seeking a relationship and a future golf mate.
If you haven’t guessed already, this story personal for me. I signed up with golfmates.com about three months ago. I’ve had numerous encounters with all types of ladies since then. I came to the realization that if I’m going to continue my passion for golf, I need to find someone who shares that passion or at least is willing to try. Unfortunately, there are numerous members looking for a Sugar Daddy to provide airline tickets from Guam, UK, Mexico, and Ukraine willing to provide companionship with a promise of marriage and US citizenship. I’ve even had solicitation from professionals from Las Vegas soliciting golfers for a reciprocal relationship. I’ll take care of your needs if you take care of mine! It can be very frustrating if you’re sincerely looking for someone with that magic combination of chemistry and love for the game.
I did a quick search for dating sites on google and came up with this list. Some are free but offer upgrades for money while others cost anywhere from $19.95 per month to $39.95 but offer incentive rates for 3 or 6 month commitments. GolfMates.com, Golfdatingservice.com, DateaGolfer.com, MeetLocalGolfers.com, SingleGolfersClub.com, PerfectMatch.com and Mingle2.com. I suggest checking them all out and see who’s ranked the highest for customer satisfaction and options. In my opinion it was GolfMates.com. Not too expensive and ranked highest when I did my research.
I’ve noticed couples that play golf together rarely say, “You’d rather be with your friends than with me.” Let’s face it. A round of golf takes 5-6 hours if you count lunch, drinks afterwards, or play on the weekends. That’s a lot of quality time you can spend with your significant other. Guaranteed, they would never feel that your relationship lacks time together!
It seems that golf has the rare ability to create lasting friendships and family ties even when things aren’t so perfect.. A golf date for 9 holes is an excellent way to break the ice and reveals the best and worst qualities in a very short period of time! You’ll truly see the others strengths and weaknesses in that 2 to 5 hour round. How they handle frustration, maintain patience, and concentrate are good things to know. If they can focus on difficult tasks and still maintain a sense of humor, you’ve got a keeper. I believe a couple that plays golf together has a significant advantage for a successful relationship over those who don’t. It’s works for raising kids too. Any time spent together for more than 2 hours confined in a two seat golf cart, praising each other’s’ good shots and attempting to provide assistance for the bad ones, works! Sure beats watching them texting anyway!
Give it a try if you haven’t already. Don’t turn your partner into a “Golf Widow” Get creative with why you’ve invited them and want them to be there. Even if it’s just to be the bartender. See ya on the links.
